YOUR 5 MINUTES DAILY PROGRAM TO STRESS MANAGEMENT: "RELAXING WITH A MENTAL PDA"

We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn't bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you're well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

Since Error! Hyperlink reference not valid. is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions to stress. Here are some of the things that can be done by just remembering it, since life is basically a routine to follow like brushing your teeth or eating breakfast. You can do a few of them in a longer span of time, but as they say-- every minute counts.

MANAGING TIME

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity. This will help reduce your stress.

To improve your time management:

· Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself.

· Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.

· Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.

· Manage your commitments by not over- or under-committing. Don't commit to what is not important to you.

· Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.

· Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like.

Build healthy coping strategies

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

LIFESTYLE

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

· Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.

· Have a sense of purpose in life.

· Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.

· Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.

· Get moderate exercise throughout the week.

· Limit your consumption of alcohol.

· Don't smoke but if you must, do it responsibly and when the need arises.

SOCIAL SUPPORT

Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

Changing thinking

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things can help reduce stress.

· Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.

· Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.

· Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.

· Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we're just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you're the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.

WHY ARE OLDER MEN DATING YOUNGER WOMEN

Older men dating younger women are becoming a more popular phenomenon, especially in recent years. When an older significant other is with a younger one, this is commonly referred to as a May December romance, because there is a significant age difference between the woman and the man, or the man and the woman. While it appears much more common for younger men to date older women, older men dating younger women is also becoming a popular phenomenon, even though some will view it to be out of place.

Generally speaking, in situations of older men dating younger women, the younger woman is generally looking for something specific. It is a known fact that women can be attracted to older men for a number of reasons. This does not necessarily mean that an early twenties women will date a man of seventy five, but rather relative to their age, women are more than willing to date men who are a few years older than them, and this is how older men dating younger women comes into play.

In many cases, women are looking for their husband to be. The qualities that women are looking for in their future husbands are the same qualities that men slightly older than them are displaying. Most women are more than willing to admit that they are looking for a strong and confident man. Women are not necessarily looking for young and virile hunter gatherer types, but when it comes to older men dating younger women, the qualities that shine through usually begin with a man's ability to support a family, or provide for that family on a long term basis. So usually in situations with older men dating younger women, the woman is looking for a man she can settle down with, regardless of whether or not this is what the man is looking for.

The traits that women are looking for in "husband material" are most commonly found in men aged eighteen and older, and as women age, they are still consistently looking for someone older, because it is assumed that older men are more civilized, more mature and more capable of providing for whoever they are with. This is the reason why older men dating younger women is becoming commonplace today. Women are constantly on the lookout for someone older and more mature, and most men seem to have no problem providing most of what these women are looking for, as they get to date younger as a result.

In these situations of older men dating younger women, the men are looking for something completely different, because most do not select younger women as ideal wife material. Still, in these situations, both the man and the woman in the relationship seem to get the traits and characteristics that they need, and if the relationship works and everyone is satisfied, that's really all there is.

TOP 3 REASONS WHY MEN DUMP WOMEN

No one likes to be rejected.  This is especially true for women. One form of rejection is being dumped by the person whom you really love or are in a relationship with. Being dumped is never fun.  It can be the source of a great deal of pain, confusion, anger, and hurt.

There was a time when women were the ones who did the vast majority of dumping.  However, this certainly isn't true anymore.  Men, increasingly, are dumping women.  As a woman, who has been dumped, you may not fully understand the motives behind his actions.  Men are not quite as complex as women, when it comes to these sorts of things.  This article was written to help you find some of the answers to the question of “why men dump women?”

Here are the top three reasons of why men dump women:

1.       LACK OF COMMUNICATION

Communication is very important in every relationship. A lack of communication would definitely mean the end of a relationship. Hence, it is often cited as one of the top reasons of why men break up with the woman they are with.

2.       WOMEN BECOME DEMANDING

Another reason why women are dumped by men is because as time goes by, they become more and more demanding.  Women, Western women in particular,  have a tendency to try and control anything and everything about the relationship, sometimes even the man himself.  They often will try to set rules and limits on their male counterpart.  Women often will give the men a hard time about them hanging out with their friends, what they watch on T.V., working late, etc...Some men will tolerate this type of behavior.  However, the ones that finally get fed up with it, and end it, usually cite this as a reason why they broke up.

3.       BEING TOO RELIANT ON MEN

There are times when women become too clingy, needy, and reliant on their man.  Its okay for a woman to play up the “damsel in distress” routine once in a while.  In fact, most men enjoy playing the role of “hero.”  However, it can be taken too far and becomes quite annoying if done on a regular basis.  Most men want a woman who is independent, and can make decisions on her own.  Some women insist that the man spend every free minute of every free day with her.  It is healthy for people in a relationship to have lives outside the relationship.  If the woman makes the man the center of her life and becomes too obsessed, it usually will be too much for the man.

Indeed, it is not only women who hold the power to dump men because men also have that power.  These reasons are by no means conclusive.  There are many reasons why men dump women.  The best thing you can do if you were dumped by a man, is to learn from your mistakes, and try not to repeat them in the next relationship.

LIFE MAPPING: A VISION OF SUCCESS

“How do I achieve Success?” A question every man or woman would want to ask him or herself. Success is more than economic gains, titles, and degrees. Planning for success is about mapping out all the aspects of your life. Similar to a map, you need to define the following details: origin, destination, vehicle, backpack, landmarks, and route.

ORIGIN:  WHO YOU ARE

A map has a starting point. Your origin is who you are right now. Most people when asked to introduce themselves would say, “Hi, I’m Yvonne and I am a 22-years old, university (senior highschool) student.” It does not tell you about who Yvonne is; it only tells you her present preoccupation. To gain insights about yourself, you need to look closely at your beliefs, values, and principles aside from your economic, professional, cultural, and civil status. Moreover, you can also reflect on your experiences to give you insights on your good and not-so-good traits, skills, knowledge, strengths, and weaknesses. Upon introspection, Yvonne realized that she was highly motivated, generous, service-oriented, but impatient. Her inclination was in the biological-medical field. Furthermore, she believed that life must serve a purpose, and that wars were destructive to human dignity.

DESTINATION: A VISION OF WHO YOU WANT TO BE

“Who do want to be?” this is your vision. Now it is important that you know yourself so that you would have a clearer idea of who you want to be; and the things you want to change whether they are attitudes, habits, or points of view. If you hardly know yourself, then your vision and targets for the future would also be unclear. Your destination should cover all the aspects of your being: the physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual. Continuing Yvonne’s story, after she defined her beliefs, values, and principles in life, she decided that she wanted to have a life dedicated in serving her fellowmen.

VEHICLE: YOUR MISSION

A vehicle is the means by which you can reach your destination. It can be analogized to your mission or vocation in life. To a great extent, your mission would depend on what you know about yourself. Bases on Yvonne’s self-assessment, she decided that she was suited to become a doctor, and that she wanted to become one. Her chosen vocation was a medical doctor. Describing her vision-mission fully: it was to live a life dedicated to serving her fellowmen as a doctor in conflict-areas.

TRAVEL BAG: YOUR KNOWLEDGE, SKILLS, AND ATTITUDE

Food, drinks, medicines, and other travelling necessities are contained in a bag. Applying this concept to your life map, you also bring with you certain knowledge, skills, and attitudes. These determine your competence and help you in attaining your vision. Given such, there is a need for you to assess what knowledge, skills, and attitudes you have at present and what you need to gain along the way. This two-fold assessment will give you insights on your landmarks or measures of success. Yvonne realized that she needed to gain professional knowledge and skills on medicine so that she could become a doctor. She knew that she was a bit impatient with people so she realized that this was something she wanted to change.

LANDMARKS AND ROUTE: S.M.A.R.T. OBJECTIVES

Landmarks confirm if you are on the right track while the route determines the travel time. Thus, in planning out your life, you also need to have landmarks and a route. These landmarks are your measures of success. These measures must be specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time bound. Thus you cannot set two major landmarks such as earning a master’s degree and a doctorate degree within a period of three years, since the minimum number of years to complete a master’s degree is two years. Going back to Yvonne as an example, she identified the following landmarks in her life map: completing a bachelor’s degree in microbiology by the age of 21; completing medicine by the age of 27; earning her specialization in infectious diseases by the age of 30; getting deployed in local public hospitals of their town by the age of 32; and serving as doctor in war-torn areas by the age of 35.

ANTICIPATE TURNS, DETOURS, AND POTHOLES

The purpose of your life map is to minimize hasty and spur-of-the-moment decisions that can make you lose your way. But oftentimes our plans are modified along the way due to some inconveniences, delays, and other situations beyond our control. Like in any path, there are turns, detours, and potholes thus; we must anticipate them and adjust accordingly.

LEADERSHIP EXPOSED: THINGS YOU THOUGHT YOU KNEW ABOUT LEADERSHIP

Much has been written about leadership: rules, pointers, styles, and biographies of inspiring leaders throughout world history. But there are certain leadership ideas that we ourselves fail to recognize and realize in the course of reading books. Here is a short list of things you thought you knew about leadership.

1. Leaders come in different flavors.

There are different types of leaders and you will probably encounter more than one type in your lifetime. Formal leaders are those we elect into positions or offices such as the senators, legislators, congressmen, and presidents of the local clubs. Informal leaders or those we look up to by virtue of their wisdom and experience such as in the case of the elders of a tribe, or our grandparents; or by virtue of their expertise and contribution on a given field such as Albert Einstein in the field of Theoretical Physics and Leonardo da Vinci in the field of the Arts. According to extensive research, both formal and informal leaders practice a combination of leadership styles.

·               Lewin’s three basic leadership styles – Authoritative, Participative, and Delegative

·               Likert’s four leadership styles – Exploitive Authoritative, Benevolent Authoritative, Consultative, and Participative

·               Goleman’s six emotional leadership styles - Visionary, Coaching, Affiliative, Democratic, Pacesetting, and Commanding.  

2. Leadership is a process of becoming.

Although certain people seem to be born with innate leadership qualities, without the right environment and exposure, they may fail to develop their full potential. So like learning how to ride a bicycle, you can also learn how to become a leader and hone your leadership abilities. Knowledge on leadership theories and skills may be formally gained by enrolling in leadership seminars, workshops, and conferences. Daily interactions with people provide the opportunity to observe and practice leadership theories. Together, formal and informal learning will help you gain leadership attitudes, gain leadership insights, and thus furthering the cycle of learning. You do not become a leader in one day and just stop. Life-long learning is important in becoming a good leader for each day brings new experiences that put your knowledge, skills, and attitude to a test.

3. Leadership starts with you.

The best way to develop leadership qualities is to apply it to your own life. As an adage goes “action speaks louder than words.” Leaders are always in the limelight. Keep in mind that your credibility as a leader depends much on your actions: your interaction with your family, friends, and co-workers; your way of managing your personal and organizational responsibilities; and even the way you talk with the newspaper vendor across the street. Repeated actions become habits. Habits in turn form a person’s character. Steven Covey’s book entitled 7 Habits of Highly Effective People provides good insights on how you can achieve personal leadership.

4. Leadership is shared.

Leadership is not the sole responsibility of one person, but rather a shared responsibility among members of an emerging team. A leader belongs to a group. Each member has responsibilities to fulfill. Formal leadership positions are merely added responsibilities aside from their responsibilities as members of the team. Effective leadership requires members to do their share of work. Starting as a mere group of individuals, members and leaders work towards the formation of an effective team. In this light, social interaction plays a major role in leadership. To learn how to work together requires a great deal of trust between and among leaders and members of an emerging team. Trust is built upon actions and not merely on words. When mutual respect exists, trust is fostered and confidence is built.

5. Leadership styles depend on the situation.

How come dictatorship works for Singapore but not in the United States of America? Aside from culture, beliefs, value system, and form of government, the current situation of a nation also affects the leadership styles used by its formal leaders. There is no rule that only one style can be used. Most of the time, leaders employ a combination of leadership styles depending on the situation. In emergency situations such as periods of war and calamity, decision-making is a matter of life and death. Thus, a nation’s leader cannot afford to consult with all departments to arrive at crucial decisions. The case is of course different in times of peace and order---different sectors and other branches of government can freely interact and participate in governance. Another case in point is in leading organizations. When the staffs are highly motivated and competent, a combination of high delegative and moderate participative styles of leadership is most appropriate. But if the staffs have low competence and low commitment, a combination of high coaching, high supporting, and high directing behavior from organizational leaders is required.

Now that you are reminded of these things, keep in mind that there are always ideas that we think we already know; concepts we take for granted, but are actually the most useful insights on leadership. 

HOW TO RECOGNIZE WARNING SIGNS OF A BREAKUP

Breaking up is the saddest ending of any relationship. No one wants it to happen and it can also leave you feeling confused and shocked. This is because we feel rejected.  We feel betrayed.  Self-doubt along with every possible human emotion will come to the surface after a break up. 

One of the worst parts about a break up is when the thought “Could I have prevented this break up?” creeps into your mind.  If you've ever experienced a break up before you know you're going to go through the “I should have done this” and the “I wish I wouldn't have done that” phase. 

People who do break up, under certain circumstances, can get back together again.  However, its best to try and prevent a break up from happening.  If you think your relationship may be in peril, you need to act quickly. 

Thus, it is essential for you to be aware on the warning signs of a breakup so that you can have enough time to prepare yourself.  You can take steps to try to prevent anything you don't want to happen from occurring.   If you recognize warning sings of a break up, you stand a better chance of being able to prevent the break up from happening.

Here are some of the most common warning signs of a breakup:

Avoidance – This is the most obvious sign of a possible breakup. Your significant other tends to avoid you as well as your phone calls. In fact, if it seems that your significant other would rather spend time with other people than you, your relationship could be in trouble.  For example, if your significant other spent only once a week with friends but is now going out with them three times a week, that's a strong warning sign.

Lack Of Communication – It is undeniable that communication is one of the major ingredients in a happy relationship. Hence, there is something to worry about once you have noticed that the communication between you and your significant other becomes blurry. And once your relationship lacks good communication then it certainly means that a break up is possible.  For example, if your significant other would rather read a novel, magazine or go to bed early than talk to you or watch a movie, this could be a warning sign. This factor kind of goes hand in hand with avoidance.

Conflicts and Arguments – The display of argumentative behavior is another warning sign of a forthcoming breakup. Let's be honest, every relationship has its problems.  There are very few, if any, relationships where arguments never happen.  In a perfect world, arguments wouldn't happen.  It's just human nature.  The key here is the frequency of arguments and the level of hostility your significant other is displaying.  If you notice your significant other seems to be picking fights a lot more lately, than your relationship may be in trouble.  This is because arguing all the time is a good technique that your significant other can use to show you that you are not compatible with each other and that you need to end your relationship.  In other words, it will help them justify their intentions of breaking up.

Indeed, it is essential for you to be aware on the warning signs of a possible breakup just like the ones mentioned above. They can help you to be prepared and may be able to help you stop the break up and the pain that goes along with it.

HOW TO GET BACK WITH MY EX BOYFRIEND BY REKINDLING HIS LOVE

After three and a half years, my partner decided that we were too young for a serious relationship. He decided that we needed our own space, and to go our own separate  ways, living our own separate lives. I realized then that I needed to figure out how to get back with my ex boyfriend by rekindling his love. I knew that my boyfriend wanted to be one of the boys with his friends, but that did not stop me from being absolutely inconsolable for a while, crying constantly.

At first, I thought that the solution was to call my ex boyfriend constantly, trying to figure out where he was and what he was doing all the time. I found myself feeling terribly jealous every time I found out he was out with friends. All of my friends kept telling me to stop calling, stop texting, and stop trying to figure out what he was up to all the time, but it took me a really long time to learn how to listen.

Listen, girls, this really does work: If you want to rekindle the love you share with your ex boyfriend, you need to stop feeling and acting desperate, and put a little distance between yourself and him so that he can realize how important you are. One day I decided to stop texting and calling up my ex, and a little while later he phoned me up and asked if I could come around again to collect my stuff. I agreed and picked my things up from his place, and went back to keeping my distance.

He began to realize more and more that he wanted to have me in his life. By playing hard to get, I gave him a chance to realize how badly he missed me, and it worked. It works for a lot of people just like this, in fact.

The more you are cool about the situation, and the harder to get you play, the more you will end up having him eat out of the palm of your hand in the end. So although you may believe that the best course of action is to call him, text him and message him as often as possible to talk things through during the break up, it may actually be much more advantageous to play it cool, play hard to get, and let him come to you when he is ready to do so.

Listen to the advice of your friends and your family members when they tell you to step back and play things cool for a while. Putting a little bit of distance between you and your ex isn't going to hurt anything, but it could do a world of good both for you by letting tempers cool down, stressors fade away, and reminding both you and your ex boyfriend of the value that you once saw in one another.

HOW TO WIN LOVE BACK

Learning how to win love back may be able to reignite a burned out relationship. Love is a truly fickle emotion that can burn out just as quickly and suddenly as it was originally ignited. When outside factors, such as money, family or someone from for example, create stress in a relationship that love is most at risk. Once relationship problems become an issue, love can quickly deteriorate with no resolution in sight. Here are some basic strategies that will show you how to win love back:

* Be Honest - Distrust is one of the leading causes of problems in a relationship. It is extremely important that you are honest with your partner on every possible level, even in situations where the truth is painful. This means that you need to be upfront with things that are bothering you, and you also need to be open about every day activities like finances and how you are doing at work. No one likes to feel like they constantly have to watch over their significant other, so if you want to learn how to win love back, you need to make a commitment to honesty.

* Be Encouraging - Love is all about appreciating one another for who you are and this is a big step in learning how to win love back. Your partner may have different goals and interests than you. The key is to embrace them even if you do not agree with them, and support them with all of your heart. Encourage growth in your partner's interests, and you will be promoting growth in your relationship.

* Be Dependable - Being dependable is an important part of rebuilding trust with your partner, and learning how to win love back. When you want to learn how to win love back, you need to learn how to follow through with the promises that you make, and you need to make an effort to be on time with the appointments that you make.

* Listen Actively - Communication is one of the most vital ingredients in every healthy relationship, so if you want to learn how to win love back, you need to learn how to communicate more effectively. Not only does this mean that you need to learn how to speak better, but also learning how to listen better as well. This is one of the true keys to learning how to win love back, and no relationship is solid without healthy and proactive communication.

* Act! - Keep in mind that all relationships have ups and downs, even the best ones. If you want to learn how to win love back, you need to be willing to learn how to take action and repair the problems in our relationship. You cannot simply sit back and wait for the relationship problems to go away on their own, as this will make your partner feel alienated more than anything. So if you are ready to learn how to win love back, take the aforementioned advice to heart and take action once and for all.

HOW DO I GET MY EX BACK AFTER A BREAKUP

If you are coming from a hard breakup, and you and your loved one are at a position where neither of you are sure what is coming next. What you really want to know is how do I get my ex back after such an event? Luckily, there are a few things that you can do to test if there is still hope for the relationship.

1 - Talk to your partner, noting their response and reaction to what they say. If they listen without interruption, and even drop what they are doing in order to listen, then they are likely still interested. Signs like these indicate a willingness to sacrifice time for what you are talking about.

2 - Wear a new piece of clothing, and watch and listen for a compliment or even notice that you have changed. Any compliment is a good indicator of interest.

3 - Direct your conversation towards the breakup. If your partner uses language and phrases which indicate that they are distracted or remorseful regarding the breakup. Such language is a good sign that you are still liked by your partner. These are signals which will answer your "how do I get my ex back after" right from the horses mouth.

4 - If your partner calls a lot for small talk, it can be a sign of continued interest. Your partner may also schedule a call, but after failing to call will apologize and give explanation. This concern is a sign that your opinion of your partner matters, and is a good sign of interest.

5 - Start to dangle other partner prospects in conversation, and observe how much interest your partner takes. Getting very quiet, or very inquisitive is a sign that your ex is still holding interest in you. Asking your friends about who you may be seeing is a strong indicator that you are still wanted.

6 - Go the other way and ask about who your partner is interested in. Changing the subject, hiding it or in some way deferring the question is a strong indicator that you are the person they are interested in. Once again an answer to your question of "how do I get my ex back after" right from the one you are trying to makeup with.

7 - Eye contact is also a good indicator, so testing his interest through making eye contact is a strong way to gauge their interest.

8 - Flirt with your ex partner, just lightly, and see if your partner will flirt with you back. This will be one heck of signal you are on the right track for "how do I get my ex back" stratargy.

9. Try to have a conversation, over email or text, maybe once or twice a week. Do not overdo it, you'll only make your ex push farther and farther from you. Teasing and making note of changes is a way to see that you ex still has feelings for you.

10.Physical contact is a definite sign of having feelings. Just be sure to be direct, sparse in you language and by no means be mean, for being mean will just ensure that your partner doesn't take you back.

When attempting these you should not try too hard to change him. You cannot make anyone love you. You should also act naturally, for if you win him by not being true to yourself, then it will only lead to more heart break.

As you can these are very common sense answers for "how do I get my ex back after", they are by no means the only ways for you; to get your one and only love back. Use your on common sense and find what's right for you.

HOW DO I GET MY EX BACK IF SHE LEFT ME FOR SOMEONE ELSE

Did your girlfriend leave you for someone else? Did she leave you to go back to an ex? Are you asking "How do I get my ex back if she left me for someone else?" because you love her so much and desperately want to get her back even after she abandoned you in favor of someone else?

1 - First of all, it may be best for you to move on to other girls, at least for the time being. If after you play the field a little and spend some time with some other attractive girls, you are still interested in getting back together with your ex, then you have already done one of the most advantageous things that you can do.

By moving on to other girls and being casual and nonchalant about the idea of getting back with your ex, not only are you relieving some of your own stress, but you are also showing your ex that you are confident and do not need her. Further more, you are turning yourself into a bit of a prize, because you are not chomping at the bit trying to get back with her. Be careful not to overdo this as it can blow up in your face.

2 - Prevention is often better than the cure. If you want to prevent things like this from happening in the first place, it is vital that you come to understand what happened to cause the breakup in the first place, learning from it in the process. If you learn from the experiences of your past, it will become easier for you to make sure that the same problems do not happen again.

Some of the most common reasons for break ups include being too needy or clingy, changing in how you act with one another, the relationship becoming boring or seeming like a dead end, and there are many others. Crawling back to her after a week or two is not an option, so take the time to figure out the situation before you try to rekindle things.

3 - In more cases than not, it is likely that she left for a reason. What does the ex have that you don't have? What does the new boyfriend have that you are lacking?

If you need to make changes to who you are, such as taking better care of your hygiene or dressing nicer: increasing your swag, or behaving more confidently every day, it may create an edge over whoever she ended up leaving you for, giving you a chance to get her back. After all, if she is used to being in a relationship with you, it may be easier for her to come back to you, where things are comfortable and familiar, rather than trying to strike things up with someone else.

To sum this up you need to understand that the answers above for your question "How Do I Get My Ex Back If She Left Me For Someone Else?" are only a part of the equation. However, you can increase the odds of you winning her back if you have a step by step plan.

HOW DO I GET MY EX BACK AGAIN AND NOW

How do I get my ex back? This is a really common question, unfortunately, because break ups are common and most are traumatic, stressful and difficult to deal with. It is important that you know what steps to take and how to act if your goal is to get your ex back the right way after a breakup.

No matter how traumatic the break up actually is, there are tips and tricks for reconciling the situation and repairing the relationship between you and your ex. Here are some tips to employ and some warnings for things to avoid when it comes to trying to figure out how to get your ex back right now.

Tips -

- First and foremost, you need to be yourself. Do not act like someone else just because you think it will help you be liked. It never works in the long run to pretend that you are somebody else, so drop the facade and start acting like yourself if you want to get your ex back.

- Don't flirt with any of his friends, or hit on his best friend. It'll hurt your ex's feelings bad enough for you to be flirting at all, but if you're flirting with his friends, you could make things a great deal worse. Some people use flirting as a form of revenge, and you don't want him to get the wrong idea.

- Don't be afraid to let him know that you still love him. Don't act desperate or like you cannot live without him, but do not be afraid to open up a little. Let him know what you are feeling in a subtle but apparent way. Be honest both with him and with yourself as well. Make him understand that you want this to work, because he may want it to work just as much as you do.

Warnings -

- On and off dating is something that can be heart breaking, and even sometimes abusive in nature. You are going to want to make sure that your intentions for taking him back are genuine, and you are going to want to make sure that his intentions are genuine as well in order for things to work, and to fare better than the first time around.

- It is important that you never forget what reasons led to the breakup in the first place. Was your boyfriend taking advantage of you? Were you fighting all the time? If you forget all about the problems that led to the initial break up, you cannot learn from them or move past them in order to facilitate the growth of a healthier, happier and longer lasting relationship the second time around.

Take these tips and warnings to heart and you can help rekindle a romance with your ex boyfriend, making a relationship that is stronger than the last one.

You do need to realize these are just a few of the necessary tips you need to answer the age old question of "how do I get my ex back". Take the time to learn everything you can about getting your lover back.

CREATING EFFECTIVE AND EFFICIENT RELATIONSHIPS

Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.

The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.

An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating.  An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.

 People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.

Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve  a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.

Understanding the other parties' feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them

Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.

Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect.  We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.

The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgments based on unfounded facts and prejudice.

Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.

Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.

Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party's needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.

Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other. Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.

Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.

When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship.  Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party's feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.

Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say 'No man is an Island'.

DISCOVER THE TOP THREE TIPS FOR MATURE DATING

Just because you've reached retirement age doesn't mean you've got to retire from an active social life. Mature dating is one of the hottest trends these days, especially when you consider how much more vital and healthy today's senior citizens have become. Years ago, people in their sixties may have been relegated to the old folks homes, but that isn't the case any longer. Instead, retirement aged people are enjoying a long and healthy social life, thanks to advances in health care and the fact that people are living longer, happier lives.

Hey, if you're a senior and returning to an active social life for the first time in years, you may think that you've been left behind. That isn't the case at all. Even though you may feel like you're a little bit "rusty" when it comes to dating, you shouldn't hesitate to enter the mature dating scene and kick your personal relationships into high gear. To help, we're offering these three top tips for mature dating:

1. At this stage in your life the pressure is off, so don't pressure yourself. Think about it: you're an active and vital senior citizen, and these days many of the things that may have consumed much of your life are behind you. If you're retired, then you no longer face the daily grind at work, meaning you have the opportunity to explore a mature dating relationship that allows you to spend even more quality time with your potential mate. Don't pressure yourself, instead take advantage of the fact that certain pressures -- like work or career -- are now behind you.

2. Don't worry about your age. Age is nothing more than a number. You've heard the old expression that "you're as young as you feel" and that's absolutely true. Think about the fact that you have the opportunity to enjoy many, many more active years and more exciting personal relationships. When you think about putting together a date with another senior, consider doing more active things like golf or tennis or even a trip to the gym. Let's face it, no matter your age, being in great shape is important, and that goes for the mature dating relationship as well.

3. Don't be afraid of technology. Computers, the Internet, cell phones, and all sorts of new technology is around us and we're exposed to it more and more every day. You'd be surprised how many people entering the mature dating scene are using technology to help them find a suitable partner. Whether it be an online dating site or simply chatting someone up via e-mail, technology is nothing to be afraid of and in fact may help you boost your ability to attract another person.

Sixty is the new forty, and mature dating is one of the things that today's seniors can experience and enjoy. Don't be afraid to take a chance on a new relationship, and follow these three top tips to help you have success.

DISCOVER THE TOP THREE TIPS FOR MATURE DATING

Just because you've reached retirement age doesn't mean you've got to retire from an active social life. Mature dating is one of the hottest trends these days, especially when you consider how much more vital and healthy today's senior citizens have become. Years ago, people in their sixties may have been relegated to the old folks homes, but that isn't the case any longer. Instead, retirement aged people are enjoying a long and healthy social life, thanks to advances in health care and the fact that people are living longer, happier lives.

Hey, if you're a senior and returning to an active social life for the first time in years, you may think that you've been left behind. That isn't the case at all. Even though you may feel like you're a little bit "rusty" when it comes to dating, you shouldn't hesitate to enter the mature dating scene and kick your personal relationships into high gear. To help, we're offering these three top tips for mature dating:

1. At this stage in your life the pressure is off, so don't pressure yourself. Think about it: you're an active and vital senior citizen, and these days many of the things that may have consumed much of your life are behind you. If you're retired, then you no longer face the daily grind at work, meaning you have the opportunity to explore a mature dating relationship that allows you to spend even more quality time with your potential mate. Don't pressure yourself, instead take advantage of the fact that certain pressures -- like work or career -- are now behind you.

2. Don't worry about your age. Age is nothing more than a number. You've heard the old expression that "you're as young as you feel" and that's absolutely true. Think about the fact that you have the opportunity to enjoy many, many more active years and more exciting personal relationships. When you think about putting together a date with another senior, consider doing more active things like golf or tennis or even a trip to the gym. Let's face it, no matter your age, being in great shape is important, and that goes for the mature dating relationship as well.

3. Don't be afraid of technology. Computers, the Internet, cell phones, and all sorts of new technology is around us and we're exposed to it more and more every day. You'd be surprised how many people entering the mature dating scene are using technology to help them find a suitable partner. Whether it be an online dating site or simply chatting someone up via e-mail, technology is nothing to be afraid of and in fact may help you boost your ability to attract another person.

Sixty is the new forty, and mature dating is one of the things that today's seniors can experience and enjoy. Don't be afraid to take a chance on a new relationship, and follow these three top tips to help you have success.