LET GO OF THE PAST AND TAKE A REBOUND..

Three weeks after you broke up with your spouse, you meet this awesome, funny and not bad looking person and you decide to move on and maybe start something. Now, the question is, it is just three weeks, is it maybe too soon to move on?
Your friends and loved ones are telling you it just might be and you are not exactly sure of your feelings at the moment, so what then is it? We’ve seen celebrities move on pretty fast after a well-publicized relationship and as much as we do not have lots of those here in Nigeria, it is a norm in Hollywood.
Brad Pitt hooked up with Angelina Jolie just shortly after his marriage with Jennifer Aniston ended and years later, he is still with Jolie, both of them raising a football team together *lol*. We have seen some of them move on fast and had the relationship crashing like a pack of cards and we have also seen some growing stronger.
So it brings us to the question, when exactly is the right time. This answer just might help. When you are in love with someone, you do not want your relationship to end, you give it your all and protect it with everything you have but sometimes things do not go as we plan.
Relationships sometimes end. Now whether you are the “dumper” or the “dumpee” the fact that you have put your feelings and energy into the relationship means it would hurt you no matter how hard you try to resist, if not a lot, at least a bit. If it does hurt, you would need a little time or in some cases, more than a little time to get over that relationship which brings us to this, maybe you should just stay alone for a while. Feelings don’t just disappear overnight, especially since they weren’t developed overnight, so how about you spread your wings, exhale and live life alone for a while? Yes rebound might help but it also gets messy sometimes, so stay off it and enjoy life. And if just shortly after your relationship, you are sure this new person is the one, then still breathe. Yes, enjoy your “me time”, hang out with friends, be among your family and loved ones and love life. If the person is the one, then the person won’t disappear until you are fit enough to be with them. I mean, who wants to be with someone who is carrying baggage from his/her previous relationship anyway?
So breathe and remove every emotional baggage you might still be carrying from your previous relationship so that when you move on, it would be fresh, new and so clean.

::: You may want to see :-

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• HOW TO RECOGNIZE WARNING SIGNS OF A BREAKUP 

• HOW TO WIN LOVE BACK

HOW A HEARTBROKEN POEM WILL NOT FIX A BREAKUP

When you have suffered through a breakup, it would seem that a heartbroken poem or quotes will fix things. It will not fix things. If you want to get back together, ditch the heartbroken poem and follow some hard but effective steps to mending the relationship.

These steps seem like they would worsen the breakup. However the world of relationships is not something that makes sense or follows logic. The time where you think you should call, you should not, and when you think you should be as emotive as a heartbroken poem, when you should be more stolid and steadfast.

The first step in fixing things is to accept that you need to break up. Time apart will show both of you how much you want to be together. Even more so, do not communicate, talk, call, send a heartbroken poem, nothing. This extremely hard step will serve to make coming back together even more powerful.

You should not wallow in self pity and sorrow. That leads to the heartbroken poem and song. You should be taking action. Making changes that fix your relationship should be your goal. You need to figure out what went wrong and change that part of your life. Otherwise you are set to stay apart.

It is your task to change and become better. It may seem easier or more appropriate to send a heartbroken poem to get back with the person you love. Romantic words and describing your feelings would seem like it should make things better. The intent is there, but it is likely to do more harm than good.

The reason for the failure of the heartbroken poem is that your ex-partner will likely read it the wrong way. It is full of emotion and heart and such power. Here you are, shipping this power to your ex as though it should change things will make your ex recoil. It will be taken as a form of emotional black mail, like you are going to “win.” This will only make your ex defensive and recoil away.

You will also seem like you are dismissing your ex and their needs. There might be real problems between you and your ex, which need to be addressed and taken care of. What you end up doing is writing a heartbroken poem hoping that it will solve everything. All you will do is add insult to injury.

The best thing you can do is to give space and address your problems yourself. Give plenty of space and try not to communicate. Should both of you address the problems that are plaguing your relationship, and you both make things such that the relationship can come back together, then and only then will things work out.

What seems like it should work, will not work. Things in a relationship do not follow logic or make sense. What should be done is to work on personal growth, instead of trying to fix your partner through talking, arguing, or sending the heartbroken poem.

EFFECTIVE WAYS TO CONSIDER IN SAVING A RELATIONSHIP EFFORTLESSLY

Being in a relationship is indeed a wonderful experience. There are times when you can’t ask for anything more because of the overflowing happiness that you are feeling deep within you. But knowing that your relationship is in trouble and could possibly reach the end of the line could be shocking and devastating news to you.

It will more than likely make you sad, feel isolated, or even cause you to act irrational.  Thus, you have to act now and try to save your love for your significant other as well as your priceless relationship. After all, there are numerous resources available to help you in this quest.  If you're interested in saving a relationship these tips may be a good starting point:

Identify The Relationship Problem.

Identifying the root cause of a possible relationship failure is the very first step to save a relationship. It is undeniable that any relationship probably has at least a few problems. Some of these problems can make or break your relationship. Even if you don't have a large deal breaking problem, small problems can add up to make your significant other break up with you.  Hence, it is really important for you to identify the problems present in your relationship in order to save your relationship and your love for your significant other.

Discuss The Problem With Your Significant Other.

Love is always between two people. Thus, you have to discuss all things with your significant other once you have finished identifying the problems which are present in your relationship. In this way, you can both take the appropriate actions to save your love for each other.  This will be especially important to you if you've been in your relationship for a decent amount of time. 

Always Make Sure That Love Is Present.

Love is the glue that bonds two individuals into a good relationship. Hence, you have to make sure that love is always present in your relationship to avoid any possible break ups. After all, love is the most powerful thing.  Saving a relationship is possible, as long as there is still a glimmer of love within your significant other.

Indeed, saving a relationship is really possible.  Just keep the above tips in mind.  Also, you must realize that you can't force the other person into staying with you.  Keeping your emotions in check and keeping your cool are also very important parts to this complex equation.

4 STAGES OF BREAKING UP EXPOSED

Love is said to be the most wonderful thing here on earth. It actually makes our lives more meaningful. In addition, loving and being loved in return or simply being in a relationship is the most wonderful experience that we can go through. However, a happy and bright relationship may turn into darkness once it reaches the end of the line which is usually referred to as breaking up.

This is the time when we feel so terrible because of the hurts and pains that we feel deep within our hearts. As a matter of fact, there are certain stages of breaking up which we are going to encounter whether we like it or not.  Here are some of the most common stages of breaking up:

1st stage: The first stage concerning break ups is the feeling of shock. This is actually our initial reaction once we find out that our relationship is about to end. This feeling is just pretty normal because no one knows when, where, and how a certain break up will happen.

2nd stage: Refusing to believe that our relationship has now had to end is the second stage which we will encounter in a break up experience. If we haven’t been shocked with the news of breaking up then maybe, we are just in denial that something is wrong with our present relationship. We try to make ourselves believe that any cracks in our relationship are just cracks that can still be solved; when in fact such cracks are hard to fix and worst of all, cannot be fixed anymore.

3rd stage: The third stage is depression. Being depressed after the break up is just a normal feeling. After all, no one is going to be happy getting the news about breaking up. However, we simply have to bear in mind not to think excessively about what happened because it won’t do us any good at all.

4th stage: The last stage that we are going to encounter in a break up experience is acceptance. Sometimes, the very best way to deal with a break up is to accept the fact that our relationship was never meant to last. We just have to be happy that we have experienced the magic of love even in a short while with someone whom we really loved.  At this stage, you realize that it is over and you probably will be willing to meet some new people to potentially date.

Trust me it’s a true life story then you might want to become a PGM(a perfect gentle(guy) man or Madame) as the case may be.