4 STAGES OF BREAKING UP EXPOSED

Love is said to be the most wonderful thing here on earth. It actually makes our lives more meaningful. In addition, loving and being loved in return or simply being in a relationship is the most wonderful experience that we can go through. However, a happy and bright relationship may turn into darkness once it reaches the end of the line which is usually referred to as breaking up.

This is the time when we feel so terrible because of the hurts and pains that we feel deep within our hearts. As a matter of fact, there are certain stages of breaking up which we are going to encounter whether we like it or not.  Here are some of the most common stages of breaking up:

1st stage: The first stage concerning break ups is the feeling of shock. This is actually our initial reaction once we find out that our relationship is about to end. This feeling is just pretty normal because no one knows when, where, and how a certain break up will happen.

2nd stage: Refusing to believe that our relationship has now had to end is the second stage which we will encounter in a break up experience. If we haven’t been shocked with the news of breaking up then maybe, we are just in denial that something is wrong with our present relationship. We try to make ourselves believe that any cracks in our relationship are just cracks that can still be solved; when in fact such cracks are hard to fix and worst of all, cannot be fixed anymore.

3rd stage: The third stage is depression. Being depressed after the break up is just a normal feeling. After all, no one is going to be happy getting the news about breaking up. However, we simply have to bear in mind not to think excessively about what happened because it won’t do us any good at all.

4th stage: The last stage that we are going to encounter in a break up experience is acceptance. Sometimes, the very best way to deal with a break up is to accept the fact that our relationship was never meant to last. We just have to be happy that we have experienced the magic of love even in a short while with someone whom we really loved.  At this stage, you realize that it is over and you probably will be willing to meet some new people to potentially date.

Trust me it’s a true life story then you might want to become a PGM(a perfect gentle(guy) man or Madame) as the case may be.

DATING MARRIED MEN IS IT RIGHT OR WRONG FOR YOU

Are you considering dating married men because you are having trouble finding a serious, long term relationship with someone who isn't already attached? Let us say that you are a single female, and you have everything in the world that you need or want, except for a man. There could be many reasons for why this is.

For example, it may be because of your own choice, or it may be because you are simply a difficult person to be with or to deal with. We could spend the time going over all of the available reasons, but that really is not what this article is all about. Instead, let's talk about why single women turn to dating married men.

We have all heard it before: Some single women say that dating married men is their preferred way to go is because not only is it easy for them, but also because it is a guaranteed no-commitment relationship, which is ideal when they are not looking for commitment. If you are not looking for commitment, however, why would you intentionally shack up with someone who is supposed to be committed for life because they are married? Why not choose a single guy who isn't looking for commitment instead i.e a perfect guy man?

Dating married men may seem like a walk in the park when you are single and looking, but once you get into such a relationship it can have much different results all together. There is no real way that you can say that dating married men is something you do from time to time, because there are feelings that get factored into these equations in some way or another mathematically speaking. Something drew you to the married man in the first place; you didn't just choose him because you thought dating married men would be easy.

So when it comes to dating married men, you may think that you can just see him from time to time without getting any emotions involved, or without allowing yourself to be hurt. However, seeing someone only from time to time actually does involve a lot of things, such as trying to find time for one another without the wife finding out about you. You may be very busy, or you may have plenty of free time, but either way, trying to find time to see someone who is in a marriage can be very difficult no matter which way you go.

If you are free all day and just want to spend time with the person you are in a relationship with, you still have his obligations, including his wife, to contend with. Why put so much time and effort into simply working around his schedule? It sounds like a lot of work just to see someone who is already quite clearly in an attached relationship. Instead, you should try and find someone that has time for you because you are the only relationship he is in.

What is it that really drives you into the arms of a married man, with or without a family? Is it the danger and the excitement of living on the edge? You should know dating married men can leave you with emotional scars that will last a life time.

DISCOVER THE TOP THREE TIPS FOR MATURE DATING (for matured minds-widows and widowers)

Just because you've reached retirement age doesn't mean you've got to retire from an active social life. Mature dating is one of the hottest trends these days, especially when you consider how much more vital and healthy today's senior citizens have become. Years ago, people in their sixties may have been relegated to the old folks homes, but that isn't the case any longer. Instead, retirement aged people are enjoying a long and healthy social life, thanks to advances in health care and the fact that people are living longer, happier lives.

Hey, if you're a senior and returning to an active social life for the first time in years, you may think that you've been left behind. That isn't the case at all. Even though you may feel like you're a little bit "rusty" when it comes to dating, you shouldn't hesitate to enter the mature dating scene and kick your personal relationships into high gear. To help, we're offering these three top tips for mature dating:

1.       At this stage in your life the pressure is off, so don't pressure yourself. Think about it: you're an active and vital senior citizen, and these days many of the things that may have consumed much of your life are behind you. If you're retired, then you no longer face the daily grind at work, meaning you have the opportunity to explore a mature dating relationship that allows you to spend even more quality time with your potential mate. Don't pressure yourself, instead take advantage of the fact that certain pressures -- like work or career -- are now behind you.

2.       Don't worry about your age. Age is nothing more than a number. You've heard the old expression that "you're as young as you feel" and that's absolutely true. Think about the fact that you have the opportunity to enjoy many, many more active years and more exciting personal relationships. When you think about putting together a date with another senior, consider doing more active things like golf or tennis or even a trip to the gym. Let's face it, no matter your age, being in great shape is important, and that goes for the mature dating relationship as well.

3.       Don't be afraid of technology. Computers, the Internet, cell phones, and all sorts of new technology is around us and we're exposed to it more and more every day. You'd be surprised how many people entering the mature dating scene are using technology to help them find a suitable partner. Whether it be an online dating site or simply chatting someone up via e-mail, technology is nothing to be afraid of and in fact may help you boost your ability to attract another person.

Sixty is the new forty, and mature dating is one of the things that today's seniors can experience and enjoy. Don't be afraid to take a chance on a new relationship, and follow these three top tips to help you have success.

ENHANCE YOUR LOVE LIFE WITH A SPECIAL GIFT OF ROSES.

Have you ever wished you could come up with a new gift idea to show your loved one how you feel? 

            Have you ever wondered about what the different colors of Roses actually mean?  For instance, next time you choose a specific color of Rose, do so to convey a special meaning. 

            Look below and learn what the different Rose colors represent and next time you buy a Rose as a gift, deliver a loving message at the same time.

Colored Roses and What Each Color Means

Red - Love, I Love You

Pink - Perfect Happiness, Please Believe Me

Peach - Modesty

White - Innocence and Purity, I am Worthy of You, You're Heavenly

Orange - Fascination

Yellow - Texas Love, Joy and Friendship

Single Full Bloomed Rose - I Love You, I Still Love You

White and Red Mixed - Unity

Rosebud - Beauty and Youth, A Heart of Innocent Love

Rosebud (Red) - Pure and Lovely

Rosebud (White) - Girlhood

Bridal - Happy Love

Christmas - Tranquilize My Anxiety

Damask - Persian Ambassador of Love

Dark Crimson - Mourning or Loss

Hibiscus - Delicate Beauty

Leaf - You May Hope

Tea - I'll Remember Always

Thornless - Love at First Sight

Bouquet of Mature Blooms - Gratitude

            Next time you buy your loved one a Rose as a gift, attach a handwritten card to convey the message to him/her that the color means.  This is a great way to enhance your love life!

            Here are some great examples for you to adapt for yourself:

            Tea Rose -- Last night was very special.  I’ll Remember Always!

            Dark Crimson -- You mean so much to me.  Can we try again just one more time?

            Rosebud (Red) -- You take my breath away!  You look so lovely!

            Orange -- You fascinate me!  Can we spend more time together?

            Even smaller, simpler messages will enhance your love life and will thrill your partner!

Trust me it works.!!!

PRIMARY COLORS OF ROMANCE

What is romance without a kiss?

            When wishing for romance, your kisses had better be good to make a favorable impression. It may not be fair, but some will judge you on your first kiss as to whether or not they will want to see you again.

            In other words, there needs to be good chemistry when kissing.

            A good kiss delivers a powerful impact! If you're a great kisser, you're going to turn your date on and you will have a definite edge.

            What distinguishes a good kisser from the kisser we all want to forget? The key is to be soft and gentle and follow their lead.  Here are some good romantic kissing tips to enhance your love life:

STEP ONE

            **Be careful not to startle - watch and wait for the signal to proceed

            **Avoid the ‘ambush’ kiss (although these can be exciting as your relationship progresses.)

            **Look deeply into your partner’s eyes.  This will send the message that you like them and want to be closer to them.  Look for their signals as well.

            **Look for a warm, kind smile (even a slight smile is good; it doesn’t have to be BIG.)

            **Pay attention to the look on your loved one’s face.  This will indicate if they want to go on with the kiss.

STEP TWO

            **Look for good balance.  As you move closer to that magical kiss, you don’t want to be leaning too forward awkwardly to get there.

            **As you move closer you are sending signals. You want your body to be in a comfortable position during the kiss, so you can enjoy every moment of it.

            **Go for a light touch just before the kiss. While a hand lightly on the face is a definite signal of intimacy, holding hands combined with eye contact and a warm look can indicate the beginning of a great kiss to come.

            **Make sure you are aligned correctly at this point. This means not only getting your lips on track with theirs, but getting the head tilted correctly as well.

            **Tilt your head slightly to one side first.  Your partner will likely react and tilt the other way. This is a mutual sign that the kiss will be very welcomed.

STEP THREE

            **Relax your lips, close your eyes.

            **Move in slowly. During step number two you made sure the two of you were aligned correctly, now you can close your eyes as you’re just about to make contact.

            **Relax your lips, not tightly pressed together. Give your partner the pleasant experience of feeling your lips softly against theirs.

            **Your lips should be recently moistened, but not wet.

STEP FOUR

            **Relax your lips, tilt your head and breathe evenly.

            **Moving in, you can part your lips slightly just before contact. Keep your lips relaxed, your tongue in your mouth.

            **Keep your head tilted so both of you can still breathe comfortably on contact and as the perfect kiss is held...

            S A V O R every moment ... be slow, gentle, easy.

STEP FIVE

            **Keep it sweet, not too long and not too wet.

            **Don’t pull away too quickly or make any quick movements. Savor. Savor. Savor. Feel the power and romance of the kiss.

            Enjoy the moment!

STEP SIX

            **Take your time and don’t rush. Make eye contact, nonverbal and verbal messages.

            **To end, pull away slowly and make eye contact again. Show a satisfied, warm smile to reinforce how you feel.

            **Enjoy the closeness, relax, and finish the kiss with a warm embrace.

            A few, thoughtful words, such as, “That was nice,” can be whispered.  Try to reinforce how you felt about your kiss with positive words.  Your partner will appreciate this and this can break the ice a little.

ROMANCE FUNDAMENTALS -- PRIMARY FLIRTING

It is rather difficult to be romantic without first flirting.  What exactly is flirting and how can you adapt some flirting into your own romantic moods and play?  To begin, you don’t want to be too aggressive.  Start with very friendly gestures and once you have gotten those moves down, and then go for the romantic flirting!

            Flirting is a frame of mind:

            Be self-confident and do not be afraid to take risks.

            Be enthusiastic about romance and be positive!

            Start a sexy conversation:

            Start with a simple, opening line by saying hello.

            Talk about anything at all, whatever will get the romance going.

            Enjoy yourself and have fun:

            Be playful, light-hearted and above all, be spontaneous.

            Show that you can be vulnerable.

            Make good use of all props:

            Always use a prop.

Props will get the conversation started naturally. They encourage conversation and others will want to start talking to you.

Great props are: pets, children, great jewelry, a wonderful scent, a sweatshirt with your favorite sports team’s emblem, an interesting book or magazine.

            Play host:

            Take the lead by taking on the role of host.

            Do not be the passive person in waiting, but rather the lead.

            Introduce yourself first:      

            Move closer to the person you want to meet and introduce yourself confidently!

            Listen-up:

Everyone loves to be heard and when you are a good listener your partner will be drawn to you.

            Make bold eye contact:

Look your partner in the eye gently (no more than 2-4 seconds) and then look away. You don’t want to stare!

            Pay a genuine compliment:

            Your partner will be pleased and will warm up to you more.

           

Show a beautiful smile:

You will look so much more approachable. Everyone is attracted to a genuine and heartfelt, smile.

So there you go!  These are all ground-breakers when wanting to approach someone with romance.  We must always be mindful of the fundamentals. 

When we just dive right in, unexpected, we can turn our loved one off.  Go slow, a step at a time and feeling confident, approach with your best romance moves.

Note: if this doesn’t work for you then you might want to drop a comment on what went wrong.