After three and a half years, my
partner decided that we were too young for a serious relationship. He decided
that we needed our own space, and to go our own separate ways, living our own separate lives. I
realized then that I needed to figure out how to get back with my ex boyfriend
by rekindling his love. I knew that my boyfriend wanted to be one of the boys
with his friends, but that did not stop me from being absolutely inconsolable
for a while, crying constantly.
At first, I thought that the
solution was to call my ex boyfriend constantly, trying to figure out where he
was and what he was doing all the time. I found myself feeling terribly jealous
every time I found out he was out with friends. All of my friends kept telling
me to stop calling, stop texting, and stop trying to figure out what he was up
to all the time, but it took me a really long time to learn how to listen.
Listen, girls, this really does
work: If you want to rekindle the love you share with your ex boyfriend, you
need to stop feeling and acting desperate, and put a little distance between
yourself and him so that he can realize how important you are. One day I
decided to stop texting and calling up my ex, and a little while later he
phoned me up and asked if I could come around again to collect my stuff. I
agreed and picked my things up from his place, and went back to keeping my
distance.
He began to realize more and more
that he wanted to have me in his life. By playing hard to get, I gave him a
chance to realize how badly he missed me, and it worked. It works for a lot of
people just like this, in fact.
The more you are cool about the
situation, and the harder to get you play, the more you will end up having him
eat out of the palm of your hand in the end. So although you may believe that
the best course of action is to call him, text him and message him as often as
possible to talk things through during the break up, it may actually be much more
advantageous to play it cool, play hard to get, and let him come to you when he
is ready to do so.
Listen to the advice of your
friends and your family members when they tell you to step back and play things
cool for a while. Putting a little bit of distance between you and your ex
isn't going to hurt anything, but it could do a world of good both for you by
letting tempers cool down, stressors fade away, and reminding both you and your
ex boyfriend of the value that you once saw in one another.
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