1. One very effective
way of finding out if a person is lying would be to ask the person very pointed
questions about the area of interest. If the person fumbles or gives vague answers
then you do not have to waste your time on such a person.
2.
Another thing that you could do is
that from the moment you first make contact, jot down whatever details the
person chooses to reveal to you and in subsequent encounters nonchalantly question
the person about the details, if there is a contradiction in the two details
then you can be as sure as pat that the person is lying.
3.
Ask the person seemingly general
questions but which in fact should have a very definite purpose, for example ask
the person what he or she is looking for in such a relationship. Note down the
answer. After two or three encounters again repeat the question and see whether
the two answers match.
4.
You could try pretending that you
have chatted with the person before and innocently ask the person if he or she
is such and such person (make something up) and try offering compliments to the
person like, “I really enjoyed chatting with you the other day. You were
perfectly charming…” and so on. If the person falls for cheap flattery like
this, then obviously he or she makes it a hobby to chat with people under
various identities.
And so the chatting goes on until the person really grows on you. When
you feel that you can really trust the person, you may try giving the person
your telephone number. Remember that this too is a giant leap towards building
a relationship so it’s better that you be sure than sorry.
The safest thing you can
do about telephone numbers is to mutually exchange it preferably at the same
time, so that neither party is at a disadvantage. It’s really no big deal, you
can afford to tell the person that you are just being wary, the person will
understand. If he or she does not, then there is a good chance that he or she
will not understand a lot of other things as well. In that case, dump the
person.
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